You just can’t leave the door open for awful people in your life. They will come right in and fuck things up for you, regardless of what your situation is. People are shit, cruelty is unavoidable. I haven’t written in a while. Its because things just got to real, I would sit down to try and formulate thoughts and just get chocked up. Even now it feels like I am just foggy headed, watching all of this shit carry out underneath my consciousness. I had a staff meeting earlier and it was embarrassing, I couldn’t even say my employee number that I literally type multiple times every single day at work. That’s how blown up my mind is right now. However, I am not a proponent of keeping things bottled up inside so I am going to attempt to spew some words out on this blog and hope for some sort of release and clarity. I’ve been living at the house all alone since the beginning of December. My wife is living in Arkansas to be near the cancer treatment facility up there. I am responsible for every single bill my family has. Things that were left unpaid by my wife, that would result in suspensions, fines, or bills sent to collections, those are all in my lap now. I got fired from the coffee shop that first day in December. So that much needed cash flow is long gone.
I didn’t pay my child support for the months of July and August. Shit was just spiraling out of control and the details would make for a pretty shocking account of things I will have to save for another day. I was supporting myself, my wife living apart from me, and my wife’s habits. The saddest fucking thing about that is that I was so desperate (and clueless), that I was scared that I didn’t have a shot at saving my marriage if I didn’t do these things. And I guess I just finally cracked. Two months out of over six years but there it was; I had left the door open for the biggest scumbag imaginable to slip her claws further into my life than I needed. When I got back from Estonia and my now pregnant wife worked things out with me (again, I’ll just leave things at that for now) I immediately was able to reel in my finances and start paying child support again. I told my daughters step father I would settle up the missing amount when I received my tax return in 2014. Fast forward to October and after a miscarriage, I got a letter from the department of revenue asking me to submit all kinds of paperwork on my earnings and assets. In November, my wife was diagnosed with lymphoma and had to quit her job, making us a single income family. The bills from the emergency room visit in October were starting to come in. My daughters stepfather was made aware of all of this, but I guess I was an idiot for ever thinking they would back off with the back child support situation.
Last week I received yet another letter from the department of revenue saying they were going to garnish my wages and add on an additional $100 for the back child support. There was no total amount listed and the letter didn’t say how many months she was claiming I had missed. So immediately I was worrying about how she had proved this, and knowing what a piece of shit she is, if she had not simply said a period of time that was grossly exaggerated. Funny how when you assume the worst about a horrible human being, you usually are spot on. Today I got an email from my company’s payroll with a document attached detailing what was going to happen. And sure enough, the amount listed was close to three THOUSAND dollars, meaning not only did she lie about how much I had missed, she went way overboard with it. Of course I almost had a heart attack and immediately called the department of revenue. They told me she had submitted a court order, signed by a judge, stating I owed that amount. A fucking judge. I had zero knowledge that this went to court. And the fucking date was for the first week of January, meaning she knowingly went after three fucking grand from me despite my wife being out of state and out of work due to having cancer. Class act, bitch.
So this is an unfortunate truth and some very disgusting consequences. Please cover your ass in every scenario, because someone that may not be at the forefront of your problems is almost assuredly willing and ready to hit you with the knockout blow from the other direction.
